AM I A BETTER SPOUSE THAN ON OUR WEDDING DAY?

AM I A BETTER SPOUSE THAN ON OUR WEDDING DAY?

When a SPOUSE STOPS BECOMING BETTER, the MARRIAGE STOPS BECOMING BETTER, and that usually starts a SLIDE toward the DREADED DISEASE OF COMPLACENCY.

A Key Question for every spouse, “In EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE AND MARRIAGE, am I a better person and spouse TODAY than the day I got married?”

A wonderful GOAL is to IMPROVE DAILY as a PERSON and SPOUSE!!!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL HAPPINESS.

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PARENTS DON’T GET DEFENSIVE WITH “I DON’T LIKE YOU”!!!

PARENTS DON’T GET DEFENSIVE WITH “I DON’T LIKE YOU”!!! A parent can easily overreact when they hear that statement.

Instead of overreacting say, “WE LOVE EACH OTHER. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF I SPOKE TO YOU THAT WAY?”

After a calm period, ASK for an APOLOGY and GUIDE the child toward a better decision with QUESTIONS!

DON’T fly off the handle because I DON’T LIKE YOU is not life or death!!!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING.

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PARENTS LEARN TO ASK, “IS THIS AN EMERGENCY?”!!!

PARENTS LEARN TO ASK, “IS THIS AN EMERGENCY?”!!! Most situations are not life and death, far too often a parent overreacts with a child’s mistake which harms the relationship.

A PARENT MUST NEVER OVERREACT WHEN A CHILD MAKES A MISTAKE. With every situation ask, “IS THIS AN EMERGENCY?” then ACT WISELY, DON’T REACT POORLY!!!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING.

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2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

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PARENTS SAVE YOUR “NOs” FOR WHAT MATTERS!!!

PARENTS SAVE YOUR “NOs” FOR WHAT MATTERS!!! An Effective Parent differentiates a child’s minor requests from major ones.

Too often a parent says “NO” too quickly when a “YES” answer would easily strengthen the relationship and help a child learn even more responsibility.

PARENTS SAY “YES” WHEN THE CIRCUMSTANCES ALLOW FOR THAT POSITIVE ANSWER!!!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING.

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2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

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APOLOGIZING AND FORGIVENESS HEALS BROKENNESS!!!

In a HAPPY MARRIAGE, when a hurt occurs, BOTH spouses can APOLOGIZE and FORGIVE!

3 parts are ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY to complete the Whole Circle of Forgiveness.

1) I AM SORRY I HURT YOU BY . . .

2) WILL YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME?

3) I FORGIVE YOU.

After hurtful words or actions, ALWAYS APOLOGIZE and FORGIVE!!!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL HAPPINESS .

Learn more Effective Words, Actions, and Commonsense Wisdom from:

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

I encourage you to check out the 60+ videos on Dr. Randy Schroeder - YouTube Channel.

God’s richest blessings on your life and relationships!

Dr. Randy Schroeder

AVOID PARENT DEAFNESS—BE BRIEF!

AVOID PARENT DEAFNESS—BE BRIEF! At times parents mistakenly think a lecture benefits a child but that only produces PARENT DEAFNESS. After a couple of minutes, a child TOTALLY TURNS OFF the VOLUME. Parents would do well to KEEP WORDS TO A MINIMUM and follow Jesus’ example of BEING BRIEF!

A more detailed explanation is given in the 2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING.

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

I encourage you to check out the 60+ videos on Dr. Randy Schroeder - YouTube Channel.

God’s richest blessings on your life and relationships!

Dr. Randy Schroeder

DON’T ARGUE WITH A CHILD!

No parent in the history of the world has ever won an argument with a child (1 Corinthians 13:11). Rather than argue, it is healthy for a parent to simply say, “I AM SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY” or “I LOVE YOU TOO MUCH TO ARGUE WITH YOU.”

A parent-child relationship can be enhanced by AVOIDING ARGUMENTS!!! A more detailed explanation is given in the 2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, SIMPLE HABITS FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING.

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2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

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PARENTS PAUSE WITH A 3-PART ASSERTIVE RESPONSE!

PARENTS PAUSE WITH A 3-PART ASSERTIVE RESPONSE! A major goal for every parent is to PAUSE and NOT OVERREACT! The 3-PART ASSERTIVE RESPONSE achieves that goal!

When a child wants to ARGUE it is healthy for a parent to say, 1) “I HEARD YOU SAY(ECHO) . . .”; 2) “Say AND” Never BUT; then 3) RESPOND with WHAT IS HEALTHY or IN THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST.

The 3-PART ASSERTIVE RESPONSE is a terrific parenting skill!

Learn Simple, yet very Effective Words, Actions, and Commonsense Wisdom from:

2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

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God’s richest blessings on your life and relationships!

Dr. Randy Schroeder

PARENTS NEVER SAY “PUNISHMENT” WITH CONSEQUENCES!

PARENTS NEVER SAY “PUNISHMENT” WITH CONSEQUENCES! A child is PUNISHED— that is NOT HELPFUL!!!— to inflict pain with the hope of improvement for better decisions. For example, I AM PUNISHING YOU with a timeout. NEVER say PUNISHED instead say, “YOU DECIDED” to go to TIMEOUT.

Learn Simple, yet very Effective Words, Actions, and Commonsense Wisdom from:

2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

I encourage you to check out the 60+ videos on Dr. Randy Schroeder - YouTube Channel.

God’s richest blessings on your life and relationships!

Dr. Randy Schroeder

PARENTS NEVER SAY “I” WITH CONSEQUENCES!

PARENTS NEVER SAY “I” WITH CONSEQUENCES! When a parent says “I” that infers CONTROL and a PARENT WINS and the CHILD LOSES. For example, I AM SENDING YOU TO TIME-OUT. When giving a CONSEQUENCE a healthy comment to a child is, YOU DECIDED to go to timeout. YOU DECIDED is a vital parenting skill as well as helping a child understand responsibility.

Learn Simple, yet very Effective Words, Actions, and Commonsense Wisdom from:

2021 Two-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, available at: Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse  Focus on the Family   Amazon

2020 Three-Time National Award-Winning book, Simple Habits for Marital Happiness, available at:  Christian Book   Crosslink Publishing  ConcordiaPublishingHouse   Focus on the Family   Amazon

I encourage you to check out the 60+ videos on Dr. Randy Schroeder - YouTube Channel.

God’s richest blessings on your life and relationships!

Dr. Randy Schroeder