Marital Good Times Rule

On Wednesdays I post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life. Research has found that distressed couples have more fights and arguments than happy couples, not surprising. In addition to more arguments, distressed couples also have a tendency to avoid conflicts by withdrawing from each other and that creates a silent marital atmosphere. A muted marital mood compounds the dissatisfaction because that means fewer gratifying times together.

On the other hand, research discovered satisfied couples intentionally have good times together when they are not having arguments.  Happy couples actually plan for those positive times and that produces even more deposits in their emotional love bank account.

TODAY:  Plan for daily, weekly, and monthly good times to strengthen your relationship as well as overcome a silent marital atmosphere.

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6th Marital “C” – Compliment Daily

Praise creates positive energy in relationships, especially a marriage.  Learn ideas for developing a marital atmosphere that possesses an attitude of gratitude as well as daily compliments. This is the sixth video as part of the “Twelve Cs.”  The link is:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2c9MRpPFaTE&t=2s.   I hope that you will also benefit from the other videos on my YouTube channel.

The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Communication: Enhancing Your Connection; Compliment Daily; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Caressing-The Cement; Cohesion:  Your Emotional Connection; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

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5th Marital “C” – Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness

Without apologies and forgiveness, it will be nearly impossible for a couple to have a satisfying marriage.  Hurts and sins happen in every satisfying marriage because both spouses are imperfect and flawed.  The “glue” for every marital relationship is apologizing and forgiving.  An explanation of the entire apologizing and forgiving process will help enhance a marital relationship. This is the fifth video as part of the “Twelve Cs.”  The link is:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwduoXz8NDE&t=4s.   I hope that you will also benefit from the other videos on my YouTube channel.

The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Communication: Enhancing Your Connection; Compliments; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Caressing-The Cement; Cohesion:  Your Emotional Connection; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

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4th Marital “C” – Caressing: The Cement

Physical touch actually solidifies a marital relationship like cement.  Initially, when I counsel a struggling couple, physical affection is almost nonexistent.  Touch is not only essential for a marriage but physical affection also helps a spouse physically and emotionally. This is the fourth video as part of the “Twelve Cs.”  The link is:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2MmQSoxORc  I hope that you will also benefit from the other videos on my YouTube channel.

The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Communication: Enhancing Your Connection; Compliments; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Caressing-The Cement; Cohesion:  Your Emotional Connection; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

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3rd Marital “C” - Cohesion: Your Emotional Connection

I am excited to share that this morning I posted a YouTube video on “Cohesion:  Your Emotional Connection.”  Focusing on developing emotional closeness creates a powerful “heart connection.” When couples are bonded together stress and tension are less likely to be present in the marriage.  When the cohesion is weak, tensions are usually higher and minor irritations become major arguments. This is the third video as part of the “Twelve Cs.”  The link is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2U-N-gbL96A&t=20s   I hope that you will also benefit from the other videos on my YouTube channel.

The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Communication: Enhancing Your Connection; Compliments; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Caressing; Cohesion:  Your Emotional Connection; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

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Communication: Enhancing Your Connection

I am excited to share that this morning I posted a YouTube video on “Communication: Enhancing Your Connection.”  I believe the best synonym for “Communication” is “Connecting.”  Whenever a distressed couple receives counseling, both spouses usually agree that “better communication” would solve a lot of problems.  This video provides ideas and skills for better communication. This is the second video as part of the “Twelve Cs.”  The first “C”: “Commitment To Improve and Grow” is already on my YouTube channel.

The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Communication: Enhancing Your Connection; Compliments; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Caressing; Cohesion; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

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Improve Your Twelve “Cs” For A Satisfying Marriage

I am excited to share that I will produce YouTube videos on “IMPROVE YOUR TWELVE “Cs” FOR A SATISFYING MARRIAGE.”  Each video will be approximately 2 to 4 minutes in length. The Twelve “Cs” are:  Commitment To Improve and Grow; Confession (Apologizing) and Forgiveness; Communication; Caring; Caressing; Cohesion; Cooperation; Conflict Resolution (Disagreement Discussion); Commitment To Plan; Cash; Clan (Family); and Change.

The first “C”: “Commitment To Improve and Grow” is already on my YouTube channel.  For a strong, healthy marriage, each partner should strive to “Improve and Grow” as a spouse on a daily basis.    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMcE8CrC8o0&t=23s

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Marital Accountability Check-ups

On Wednesdays I post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life. I always suggest to couples that they have recurring Marital Accountability Check-ups.  A regular open, honest marital check-up is probably one of the most important things you can do for your relationship.

It can also be beneficial to have the check-up with a competent marriage counselor.  However if that is not your choice, I have listed a few questions below to help you just get started with your Marital Accountability Check-up.  I am sure you will have other “How” and “What” questions for each other.

Discuss together:

1. What 3 things do you enjoy the most about me as your spouse?
2. What were our 3 best times together in the last year?
3. Verbally, how can I better prove my love to you?
4. Physically, how can I better prove my love to you?
5. Over the next year, what annoyance should I stop or modify?
6. What would be a small improvement in our sexual intimacy for you?
7. What goals do you have for our marriage in the next year?

TODAY:  Schedule two different days and times where you can spend at least 30 minutes having a Marital Accountability Check-up. 

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Every Spouse Has Numerous Choices!

On Wednesdays I post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life.  Unfortunately, in marriage counseling I have heard thousands of disappointing comments like:  “I simply forget to regularly give meaningful hugs and kisses”; “I just can’t ever forgive”; “When I am upset I have to yell”; “Right now, I just don’t have time for our marriage”; “I know our marriage would benefit but I won’t do _____.” All of those sad comments are both excuses and choices.

Many things in both life and a marriage are beyond one’s control.  However, what is definitely within our control are our personal choices!  We can absolutely choose what we do and say in order to make a difference in the lives of others as well as all our relationships.

Choices build up or tear down a marriage.  Hence, a marriage can be changed and improved simply by making healthy choices, not excuses! And when both spouses strive to make positive choices, then a happy, satisfying marriage is usually the outcome.

TODAY:  Make positive, encouraging choices with your spouse (if married), family members, and friends.

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Time Means Everything!

On Wednesdays I post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life. A wonderful synonym for LOVE IS TIME!  You can determine what you love in life by how you spend your time.  Are we spending most of our time on hobbies, television, work, video games, projects, technology, etc.?

Great marriages, happy families, and responsible children are the result of planned time together in so many ways.  Leisure time, mealtimes, laughing time, working time, one-on-one time, prayer time, enrichment time, faith time, life-long education time, relaxing time are all essential for a satisfying life and rewarding relationships.

We absolutely cannot let our lives and our time happen by chance!  Consciously planning and scheduling our personal time and relationship time makes the critical difference!

TODAY:  Plan your personal and relationship time to have a meaningful life and close connections with spouse, children, family, and friends!

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